As with couples, we can approach a group as an entity, and assist them to have a shared experience which can be so helpful for creating a mood of trust, openness and cohesion - to literally create a group where there was previously a gathering of individuals.

I have found it to be very important to keep my language general, to offer multiple alternatives, to be as invitational and permissive as possible so that no-one is alienated and disconnected from the experience, for example I might say “Everyone has their own way of focusing and becoming absorbed in this experience. There is no right way since everyone here is an individual, so you can find your own way of finding yourself having the experience that is useful for you, not what you think I want you to have, not what you think you want to have, but the experience that will be useful for you, and just for you.”

By using inclusive language, anyone in the group can respond to the invitation individually and feel respected with no force or obligation. 

Rob