Now we know how easy it can be to invite someone into a focused absorbed experience, and we  know what we are looking for - What’s missing - and that anyone’s “likes” is an easy and fruitful place to look resources …

We can invite this focused absorption in something a client likes, and if we observe, we can see some obvious physiological changes - a slowing of the breathing, a change in the blinking, a relative stillness [except in children!] and often a smoothing out of the face. We can comment on the changes and as a result, enhance them as well as gratifying the change that’s happening, all in a natural respectful way.

It can then be a natural, easy, and respectful opportunity for a client to look within their experience and find precisely the resource that is missing in the problem. I still feel amazed at the predictable easy of this experience. It’s such a mutual joy.

Just the discovery of this missing resource may be enough for some people, but for others, more is needed …

My invitation is to play with this with yourself, a colleague, a client, and be willing to be surprised at the easy and effectiveness of the process. 

Rob McNeilly